Sometimes it's the small things that count

In the last couple of days, this blog has seen new posts from fathers who have pointed to either another person's comment or a poem that has helped them feel not so alone. When you express your feelings -- whether it be as a comment or in the form of poetry -- your words undoubtedly not only help relieve some of your own stress, but touch others you will never know about. Thank you to all who have done that here and I hope you will share with others what has helped you most in making it through your grief.


  1. "The best moments in reading are when you come across something- a thought, a feeling, a way of looking at things- that you'd thought special, particular to you. And here is it, set down by someone else, a person you've never met, maybe even someone long dead. And it's as if a hand has come out, and taken yours." - The History Boys

    Thank you for being here for the bereaved father's. I know that when my partner is ready to reach out, he will be relieved to find baby loss dad's like you.

  2. Please help.

    My boss lost his child in a stillbirth about 6 weeks ago. I am a relatively new employee but he's a great boss and I've been miserable. My friends are telling me that buying him a meaningful gift is inappropriate. I'm miserable not doing anything to acknowledge what he's going through, but they're saying that men don't like to have their weakness acknowledged. If that's true, then I will try to let it be, knowing that he has friends and family and does not need me to step in. Any advice?

    1. After losing my child, I thought it was the end of the world. I began to isolate myself from my husband and friends, it turned into a very unhealthy lifestyle. I began seeking out help to overcome my loss and I am find to be comforting because they provide steps to help me manage my grief. I definitely recommend anyone going through the same to take look.

  3. I did a good bit of journaling with our miscarriages. At one point I even wrote a song. Here's a link to part of my journal, and the song, from a blog that I recently contributed to.

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  5. Thanks for sharing this helpful blog.

  6. I consider myself lucky to have found your blog, Tim. I too lost a child 22 years ago and have been dealing it since.

    I too blog; though less about my loss and more about my book "My Father's Writings" and general lifestyle topics, but I'd be lying if I said the loss didn't somehow influence my writing.

    Would you be interested in exchanging guest blog posts? As fathers who have both lost a child, our insight to one another's followers may be valuable advice from an outsider's view.

    I'd be happy to connect. Sending well wishes this Holiday Season.

    If you'd like to check out my blog in the meantime you can at:

  7. Hi everyone, I have read the comments in here and I can honestly tell all of you dads that I understand your loss. I too, have lost a child and my biggest question with it all was Why? Its been 8 years since my little girl drowned and that is 8 years of living hell! But, I can tell you all that there is hope for you. I can tell you all that as ridiculous as it sounds....I know the answer to my Why question. I open this invitation to any of you who are hurting deeply. I open this invitation to any of you who are looking for answers. I will talk to any of you by email or just comments on my daughters memorial page on Facebook. Search... Elizabeth Claire Blackwell (gone but not forgotten). I urge you fathers, and mothers to reach out and open up to someone who has been there. I look forward to that moment! God bless you all!

  8. I lost my son in 2009 and still struggle every day. I have good and bad days and struggle to find the strength to keep going.
    One thing that i find that helps me is a yearly service done by our local hospital called the Princess Anne. The service is called Forget Me Not Memorial Service and it brings us all together to provide a base to chat and help each other.
    I managed to find your blog by the same service as one of the yearly readings is an extract of your blog usually the are you a mr fix it.
    I wanted to say thank you. Your words have helped me and always make me cry.
    Please carry on and maybe one day we can all heal.

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