They Were Still Born, By Janel Atlas: I was pleased to be asked to contribute a chapter to this new book, which is a compilation of personal reflections on stillbirth. It's a beautiful book filled with a variety of perspectives from those who have lived through this tragedy. Available from Amazon.
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ReplyDeleteSounds a great book for those that need to read true accounts of grief. It is often so hard to talk about. I was encouraged to write a journal many years ago after my toddler died. It is now available as an eBook here http://www.settlepetal.com/products/After-Your-Child-Dies-eJournal.html
ReplyDeleteIt will bring hope and encouragement to those who need it. Yours in grief and life, Jan
For me it was January 29th 2011 at 3:58am. It was the 35th week. I'd love to say that I am completely alright. That, however, would not be the truth. This may be the most difficult thing a person can go through. I've had to come to grips with that. For anyone else who discovers this page amidst a similar loss, allow yourself to be angry. Believe it or not it helps, and don't forget.
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Just found this site, as it was posted in the Stillbirth group of DailyStrength.com. I am one of 2 fathers I know of on there. My wife and I lost our John Evan on January 5th, 2011. He was our first (and obviously at this point) only child. Like Jason posted above me, we were near the end of the 35th week. I was actually about 1,000 miles away when my wife went in for her weekly check-up and they found no heartbeat. He was moving a lot the day before as I was leaving for the airport. Why was I 1,000 miles away with my wife nearly 8 months pregnant? It was to be a short trip... I was attending my grandfather's funeral. Needless to say, I lost my grandfather and son within a 3-day time period. One was expected, the other obviously wasn't.
ReplyDeleteI see these posts are older but i'm replying anyways. 12 days ago my baby boy Peyton James was taken from my wife and I. just 2 days before that happened my Grandmother, who helped raise me from a little boy, passed away. Just 3 weeks before that her husband, my grandfather passed away. I lost 2 grandparents and a son in 3 weeks. Grandparents, while very difficult, you expect, but not your child. He was our third. My wife was full term. He weighed 6lb 13 oz's 18.5 inches long. My wife went in for her weekly check up and they couldn't find a heart beat. I got a call from the nurse at the doctors office from my wifes phone, all i could hear was my wife screaming and crying i rushed down there immediately. they told me he was dead and she had to be induced. his car seat is still in the car, his cradle is still in our room. our daughter draws pictures of him and her and everyone else in the family holding hands. our first born had cancer when he was 2, that was the most horrible thing i ever had to go through, until this. if it wasn't for my kids i would give up, but i'm trying to stay strong. thanks for letting me get this out.
DeleteMy son died 4 days before he was born on June 4th 2011.He was full term. He was 7lb 3oz had curly brown hair and was beautiful. I never saw him alive but I miss him terribly. I loved him completely before he was born. i don't know how much other fathers suffer but I think it is under recognised how much men suffer as well as women when their child dies like this.
ReplyDeleteOur first son was stillborn at 37 weeks in October 2009. I was completely alert while the medical staff at the hospital gave my partner plenty of medications to dull the emotional and physical pain of an emergency c-section (just two days prior to our scheduled date of meeting our little boy). The experience was and still is vivid in my memory.
ReplyDeleteI would hope that no other father would have to lose his child and read this - but if you are now a member of this awful club you can know that I understand your array of unwanted feelings and I wish I could bring your child back to you.
Our second son was born alive at 36 1/2 weeks in a pre-scheduled c-section following an extremely stressful pregnancy. He is now 15 months old and wish every day that he could have known his big brother. Having a child following a loss takes the edge off the pain, but I will always wish that my first son's "dash" on this earth would have been longer....
I see these posts are older but i'm replying anyways. 12 days ago my baby boy Peyton James was taken from my wife and I. just 2 days before that happened my Grandmother, who helped raise me from a little boy, passed away. Just 3 weeks before that her husband, my grandfather passed away. I lost 2 grandparents and a son in 3 weeks. Grandparents, while very difficult, you expect, but not your child. He was our third. My wife was full term. He weighed 6lb 13 oz's 18.5 inches long. My wife went in for her weekly check up and they couldn't find a heart beat. I got a call from the nurse at the doctors office from my wifes phone, all i could hear was my wife screaming and crying i rushed down there immediately. they told me he was dead and she had to be induced. his car seat is still in the car, his cradle is still in our room. our daughter draws pictures of him and her and everyone else in the family holding hands. our first born had cancer when he was 2, that was the most horrible thing i ever had to go through, until this. if it wasn't for my kids i would give up, but i'm trying to stay strong. thanks for letting me get this out.
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